As parents of young adult kids, we often find ourselves navigating new territory. Our kids are grown now, but they still need us in ways that feel unfamiliar. They’re forming their identities, facing adult responsibilities, and processing their own concerns about the world—and let’s face it, the world can feel like a heavy place right now. Many young adults are deeply worried about the direction our country is taking, their rights, and the rights of others.

If you’re a parent who doesn’t understand why your child is so upset—ask them. Listen to them. Don’t diminish their concerns or tell them they’re overreacting. I’ve talked to many parents who struggle to connect with their young adult kids over these big topics, and I’m here to tell you that it’s okay if you don’t have all the answers. What matters is that you’re willing to try.

Here are some tips to help you support your young adult children during these uncertain times:

1. Listen Without Trying to Fix

When your child comes to you upset or worried, start by asking them what they need from you. I love using the phrase, “Would you like to be held, heard, or helped?” Sometimes they just need a hug. Sometimes they want to vent. And yes, sometimes they want advice. But if you rush to fix their problem when all they wanted was to feel heard, they’ll likely feel dismissed and frustrated. So ask first, and then give them what they need in that moment. It’s a simple habit that can make a big difference in your relationship.

2. Seek to Understand Their Perspective

Even if you don’t share your child’s concerns or see the world the same way, you can still listen and seek to understand. Read or watch news from sources outside your usual bubble. Ask your child to explain their fears and what’s driving them. The goal isn’t to argue, change their mind, or even change your own beliefs. The goal is to strengthen your relationship by showing them that you value their voice and take their concerns seriously.

3. Be Honest About What You Can Promise

Sometimes, when our kids come to us overwhelmed or afraid, it’s tempting to reassure them with, “Everything’s going to be okay.” But the truth is, we don’t always know that. I remember having a conversation with one of my kids recently where everything in me wanted to say those words. Instead, I said, “I can’t promise you that everything will be okay, but I can promise that we’re here for you. You’re not alone, and we will support you in whatever way you need.”

It felt more honest, and I could see how much it meant to them. Sometimes the best thing we can offer is our presence and our willingness to walk alongside them, no matter what.

4. Share Your Perspective Without Minimizing Theirs

You’ve lived through a lot. You’ve developed resilience and perspective that comes from years of experience. Your child doesn’t have that yet—and that’s okay. Share your stories of facing tough times, but be careful not to diminish what they’re feeling. Instead of saying, “You’ll understand when you’re older,” try something like, “I’ve lived through some challenging seasons, and while it’s not the same, I’ve learned that hard times often inspire people to come together and find solutions. I believe in your generation’s ability to make a difference.” (I actually believe this:).

5. Encourage Action (Even Small Steps)

One of the best ways to combat fear or frustration is to take action. Encourage your child to channel their concerns into something constructive, like volunteering, voting, or supporting a cause they care about. Even small actions can help them feel empowered instead of overwhelmed. You might say, “I can see this matters to you. Is there something you’d like to do about it? I’d love to hear your ideas.”

6. Take Care of Yourself, Too

Parenting young adults who are anxious or overwhelmed can take an emotional toll. Often, we absorb their stress without realizing it. That’s why it’s so important to prioritize your own self-care. Whether it’s journaling, deep breathing, taking a walk, or talking with a friend, make sure you have practices that help you process your own feelings after tough conversations. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and taking care of yourself sets a great example for your child, too.

7. Be a Safe Place

Above all, focus on being a safe and steady presence in your child’s life. Let them know they can come to you with any concern, fear, or frustration, and that they’ll be met with love and support—not judgment or dismissal. Even if you don’t have all the answers (who does?), being there for them matters more than you realize.

Parenting young adults isn’t always easy, especially when the world feels uncertain. But remember, you don’t have to solve every problem or have the perfect response. By listening, supporting, and showing up, you’re building a foundation of trust and connection that will serve your relationship for years to come.

Let’s keep the conversation going—what strategies have worked for you when supporting your young adult kids? I’d love to hear your thoughts!